If you are caring for an elderly loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia, it’s likely that you often feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and cranky. And you’re probably really hard on yourself for feeling that way. Welcome to the world of caregiving. You are not alone.
My mother has been going to the same hairdresser, Claudette Deroche, for years. I decided to take her for a cut and talk to Claudette about weekly appointments. On our way, I became aware of several things — all with a common theme. My mother was happy about everything.
My mother, who has Alzheimer’s, loves chocolate. She always has, as far back as I can remember. She would never buy herself just one chocolate bar, opting for the entire box instead. She went through phases. For a long time, it was Hershey Bars, which she liked to eat soft and nearly melted. When she switched to Peanut Butter Cups, she preferred them icy cold from the freezer.
It can especially difficult for people caring for a loved one to even entertain the thought of making some resolutions, let alone keep them. If there is a # 1 New Year’s resolution for caregivers, it might be, “To be a better caregiver.” Caregiving is an all-consuming, overwhelming responsibility and if you really want to do a better job than you’re probably already doing, we suggest that, instead, you make a resolution to take better care of yourself.If you think you don’t have the time or the energy to take care of you, too, we’ve compiled a list of helpful tips — little things that can make a big difference.
Every holiday season Ray and his wife Camille fly to Michigan to spend time with their daughter and her family. They’ve been doing it for the past decade and have never missed a year. But things are different now. Ray has dementia and Camille is worried that the trip may be too much for him — and also for her.
My husband has had a cold for the past 10 days. It started with a runny nose and a little congestion and then he got a lumpy feeling in his throat. For several days he sneezed and sneezed and coughed and coughed.
A few years ago, I took a short nap and woke up with a sore throat and a fever. There wasn’t a place on my body that didn’t ache. I was miserable. Nothing made me feel better the first few days. Nothing. I had the flu.